The other week I was on a night out in what people would describe as a "straight" venue what I mean by that is that the majority of people who attend the venue are heterosexual. 

Anyway allow me to get to the point while there I met this guy who classed himself as straight anyway he introduced me to a few of his mates and I had a really good night with them all, anyway a few days later I got a friend request from him on facebook and I accepted and we got talking, he invited me to go for a drink with him sometime and I agreed thinking it was quite simply just a friendly drink as anyone who had made a new friend would.

 So a few days later I meet up with the guy and we go for a drink, as the drink flowed I couldn't help but notice his very subtle yet obvious flirting, I am quite a flirty person anyway so I decided to flirt back, a few glasses of wine later the conversation changed and the guy asked if he could speak very honestly to me to which I of course said yes, He told me that he had never before in his life been attracted to a man and never thought about anything sexual with a man but had always thought of himself as straight, he admitted that of course like most teenage boys the thought of been gay had crossed his mind but nothing ever came of it, but he admitted that for some reason he was attracted to me quite heavily and was confused about his feelings because he had a girlfriend who he loves and is unsure about how to deal with his emotions. 

Now I was confused myself as I had never had something like this happen, I have obviously come across men who go around saying they are straight but have sex with men on occasions but to come across someone who has never thought of themselves as anything other than straight and to meet me and for some reason be attracted to me was strange, flattering but strange! He then went on to say that even since meeting me he hasn't found himself attracted to other guys but had found himself attracted to other girls and the main reason for meeting up with me for a drink was to find out if the attraction was still there to which he said it was.My advice to the guy was that he should follow what his heart tells him to do, I wasn't heartless enough to do anything with him as I knew he had a girlfriend so I told him that he needs to find himself before he acts on anything.

 This all got me thinking, is it possible that love literally has no boundaries? Can it be that no one actually has a true sexuality and that you can go through life thinking and believing that you are one thing and then out of the blue you meet someone who you are attracted to but that would make you something else? Is it possible that we are all not gay, not straight, not bi but we are all just "sexual"? Maybe sexuality is a percentage, and no one is 100% straight or gay we are just somewhere on a scale and some are more than other in either direction but the possibility exists that we can find someone to make us be on the other side? I have left the guy to make his own mind up on this but have told him if he need to talk he knows where I am. 

I think it is also important to say that if someone ever comes up to you and speaks to you openly about a matter like this or anything so private and close to someones heart then it is your duty to keep it to yourself and not go around telling everyone, just imagine how you would feel if the same was to happen. 

Ricky xxx