"I know it may look like i was being like a bitch, but that's only because i was acting like a bitch"
Cady heron (Lindsay Lohan) mean girls

I was going to write a huge introduction but decided against it here’s the HOLE truth, this week i want to talk about, mean girls/boys.

What is a mean girl/boy? Someone more popular than you? Someone who thinks they are a better person than you? Someone who spreads lies/rumours about you? Whichever way you look at it it’s bullying.

Chances are a mean girl/boy is a frightened child hiding behind a mask or a group of others, having been a target of bullies in the past, i have a deep dislike of them, and adult bullying is too often ignored, with looks of disbelief from people that such should be going on between adults. Knowing the way bullying can destroy lives.

This can happen in a workplace where your boss/college is the culprit, it can happen in a group of "friends", it can happen on the scene, it can happen on the internet & by phone, it is believed by some that bullying is present behind all forms of harassment, discrimination, prejudice, abuse, conflict & violence.

I've experienced most of the above but the worst case was (long story short) when my then boss made me feel that worthless and my self-esteem was that low that i ended up been off from work for a year with stress needless to say i never went back to that workplace and found a new job that although is boring at times i enjoy.

Despite the façade that such mean girls/boys put up, bullies have another side to them they can suffer from any of the following low self-confidence, low self-esteem, feel insecure, seething with resentment, envy, jealousy & inadequacy.

How can you tackle a mean girl/boy? what they fear most is exposure and being called out publicly to account for their behaviour so they can go to great lengths to keep their target quiet, stand up to them the last thing a bully wants is a target who is confident and can stand up in his/her own defence, seek help from friends & family, speak up about it and don’t let them make you a victim.

My final thought, you may never be the best, the sexiest, the most fierce but you know what as long as you’re having fun and are true to yourself that’s all
that matters.

That’s the HOLE truth (in my opinion)

Cheryl Hole.